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一位师兄想送6岁儿子去格鲁派寺庙学习,有知道哪能收吗

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发表于 2012-9-7 13:26 | 显示全部楼层
请教一下有证悟的修行人,看看如何是好
发表于 2012-9-7 19:21 | 显示全部楼层
俺可舍不得那么小送孩子去寺院,等长大了他自己决定好了。
发表于 2012-9-7 20:43 | 显示全部楼层
甘肃省天水净土寺是格鲁道场,海正上师收小孩出家,寺院已经有3个小和尚
发表于 2012-9-8 06:59 | 显示全部楼层
上善如水 发表于 2012-9-6 02:17
有是肯定有。问题是,如果他不是藏族,也不是自己有此信仰,也不通语言,会很痛苦。以前尼泊尔有一个老外 ...

是《嬉皮與喇嘛的孩子(Comes the Peace)》?
如果是,這篇文章介紹的蠻好的:
http://blog.yam.com/odyssey2001/article/12156987
发表于 2012-9-8 12:36 | 显示全部楼层
问问上师吧。
发表于 2012-9-8 14:52 来自手机 | 显示全部楼层
那得找一个有带过孩子有经验的寺院,否则寺院都不懂,反而不好
发表于 2012-9-8 15:32 | 显示全部楼层
愿诸众生吉祥 发表于 2012-9-7 12:32
二世卡卢仁波切的视频没看到,有连接吗

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z5Ka3bEN1rs&feature=youtu.be

Confessions of Kalu Rinpoche

"When I was 9 my father passed away and I had a very difficult life you know. People thinks that Kalu Rinpoche always lived in a very comfortable life. That's what all people been thinking of because the previous Kalu Rinpoche was popular. For me, my father past away, I was transported to different Monastery and when I was like 12 and 13, I've been sexually abused by other monks. So for me I don't believe in monks so much you know, so you know and when I was 15 I did 3 years retreat from the guidance of my Root Guru you know and then like and I did 3 years retreat and no body cares about me so much you know. Nobody knows where I am, how I am you know and after 3 years retreat, all the people are interested because you know they kind of think that I have this great qualification and something which I can remember about my past life and it's nothing like that. And then some people just said I kick out from I, when I came out from my Monastery. no I mean when I came out from the 3 year retreat I mean. When I came out from 3 years retreat and many people were making roomer's and saying that I kicked out my mother, my family and you know, I kicked out my own teacher. Actually, it's nothing like that. My own Tutor, he tried to kill me, that's the truth. and I was at that time, I was really traditional. Very good traditional Buddhist practitioner. They tried to kill me because you know, I am not doing what they want me to do. You know it's that time I was really really good you know. A traditional person you know and then he tried to kill me with the knife and everything, and it was a shocking moment for me. And after that he left because when he realized about his own mistake how can he still live with me. So he left.

I never kicked out anybody. I had a family misunderstanding for 2 years and a half, and recently like 6 months ago, I had a family reconnection and everything is good and after that you know well when I was 18 I had all these big problems you know, then one manager tried to kill me and everything. It's all about money, power, controlling because if you can control the president, you can get what you want. That's the way it is and you know and then I became a drug addict because of all this misunderstanding and you know I went crazy. I became an alcoholic, I became a drug addict. I did lots of crazy things but not the bad things and then after that I asked my root Guru you know what is going on with my life I don't know because I see all these Buddhist people who are not Buddhist. They look like a Buddhist and they sound like a Buddhist and they act like a Buddhist and I am so confused. He said, "Rinpoche you have the capacity to change the structure in your own lineage in your Buddhist organization". So that's why I'm trying to do, trying to build a school and to build my own structure for the poor people because for me the Buddhism and all this religious organization, spiritual organization it's all about how to protect the society, how to protect the environment, how to protect our self. How to be afar from the weakness, how to understand the true meaning of point. And so you know I will do whatever is best for society so that's why I plan to build a school and my life it's not easy.

There's lots of people who doesn't like me and there's lots of people who likes me. Whether you like it or not of who I am it doesn't change in the person who I am. So I will do everything I can I'm my responsibility's but the structure needs to be changed and the Buddhas teachings has to get involved in our personal life. It doesn't mean that you have to get away from your family. Stop thinking about sentient being if you can't help your own family. So first to be responsible is really important. You know I don't want Buddhism to get involved in business politics. No, I want Buddhism to bring a beautiful image to society and to understand society. That my point of view and wish me the best for my project, for my school which I can do the best for the society. And I'm just a normal human being even you live with me like 1,000 years I will still tell you, I'm just a human being. I always will be and no one is perfect, everyone is perfect. Anyways all of you people take care, and I'm happy with my life. I'm not going to change the way I am and I'm not going to change who I am. I'm happy I am and at the end I can be myself now. So I wish for all of you, don't fall into confusion, don't fall into confusion about this O.K. If you want to be a Buddhist all you need is the one person who has a spiritual understanding life experience as I've told you many times. I'm so sorry for the cars running here there because I'm outside. Take care. I love you very much and I'm happy don't worry.''
发表于 2012-9-8 17:05 | 显示全部楼层
本帖最后由 harrypotter 于 2012-9-8 17:08 编辑

我不主张居士家庭刻意引导没有抉择能力的儿童到某种特定的宗教信仰,在以前的藏地,这样可能做得通,但现在这样做的结果很可能是让他长大后就不再是个佛教徒了。

宗教信仰是很个人的事情。我的有个师长小时候被家里人引导去教堂,但最终他脱离了那个信仰来到佛门。信仰是不能从外面强加的。

作为家长,你给他身教,而不是从小带他参加一系列在他完全不理解的可能感到奇奇怪怪的仪式和活动,也许更好。最重要的是引导他从小倾向善良和智慧,就很好。
 楼主| 发表于 2012-9-8 17:58 | 显示全部楼层
我见过正面和反面的例子,有的后来是很好的出家人,有的则相反.一切都是因果,没有这个出家的善根.即使去了,也没用.有出家的善根去了是很好.当然,去寺庙培养了也是有的.只有大成就者能看到
发表于 2012-9-9 16:01 | 显示全部楼层
本帖最后由 wz15 于 2012-9-9 16:10 编辑

去浙江多宝讲寺  敏公上人在那里  那里传承清净
http://www.duobaosi.com/cn/

智敏上师,1927年生于浙江杭州市,幼小天资聪慧,才学敏达。十五岁沾闻佛法,即时戒荤茹素,后就读于上海大同大学(今交通大学),继从著名法相家范古农老居土学法相多年,1954年于五台山清凉桥吉祥律院依上清下定上师披剃,依止当代高僧上能下海上师座下学修十三载,深得海公上师显密修行之心要。对海公上师转末法为正法之大愿,深心随喜,尤其对《俱舍》“道籍人弘,法依人住”之语,深有体会,认为正法住世之关键在于培养合格僧材,早在1962年,就为清凉桥青年僧人开讲《俱舍颂疏》。文革中,备受磨难,双小腿受伤致残,仍不减弘法利生之心愿,文革后继承海公上师之宏愿,不顾伤残之躯,辗转执教于厦门南普陀、莆田广化寺、四川宝光寺佛学院等地。为贯彻多年设计之教学规划,于1992年兴办多宝讲寺。初建伊始,即倾重于培育僧材,总结多年教学经验,上师深感当今佛学院教育体制尚嫌不足之关键,在于教行不一,学修失次,针对此点,乃提出丛林制度与佛学院相结合之教学方式,遵依传承,按照佛陀四十九年说法次第,参照《道次第》及《四宗要义》制定一套教学规划,将如来一代时教,善巧组织,次第引导,从根本教进入唯识、中观,从而达到佛法最高甚深之缘起性空学说。几年来已讲授《基本三学》、《印度佛教史》、《俱舍》、《定道资粮》、《禅定品》、《五蕴》、《百法》、《二十唯识》、《沙弥戒》、《菩萨戒》及《比丘戒》等。行持上,采用学行并重之原则,以戒为根本,渐入定慧,组织僧团,如法秉律,并定期考核学习成绩。通过二组对辩、个人演讲、笔试、及平时行持,认真培养讲、辩、写、行之全面僧材。这一教学方式已引起了佛教界人土高度重视。
  上师学识渊博,戒珠融朗,三藏娴熟,辩才无碍,尤于《俱舍》造诣,堪称专家,为佛教界人士之所首肯。又其自身行持精严,四十余年如一日,坚持早晚课诵,过午不食,每夏安居,为育僧材,呕心沥血,诲人不倦,个人生活俭朴,不用高级物品。
  1995年,大吉活佛(海公上师昔日同学,现康定南无寺主持,甘孜州政协副主席)授于敏公上师以金刚阿阁黎位,同时将当年号称“日月二轮”之一——康萨仁波卿所赐之黄帽一顶转赐,并传授多种灌顶法要,谆谆嘱咐继承海公上师之事业,弘扬格鲁正法于汉地。上师历年来被推选为三门县佛教协会会长、三门县政协常委、台州市佛教协会副会长、浙江省佛教协会常务理事等职。1995年应邀赴澳洲、香港弘法,迄今所兴办之“多宝讲寺”已誉遍四海,为住持正法,续佛慧命,高树法幢,灿然放射华光异彩!
  ——摘自《中华佛教二千年》

  敏公上师立志弘扬正法,培养合格僧才,禀记海公上师将雪岭圣教光大于汉土的大愿,一九九五年以来,为住持正法,曾不顾年迈身残,高山寒流,多次翻山越岭,远赴康定南无寺,从海公上师的同学大吉活佛处求法,为大吉活佛所赞许。大吉活佛在主持胜乐金刚灌顶法会时期,为智敏上师授予金刚阿阁黎位举行仪式,并将当年被尊为西藏日月二轮之一的康萨仁波卿所赐的黄帽,亲手戴在敏公上师头上,
又历年为敏公上师作密集、胜乐、大威德金刚等最极殊胜灌顶,授以多种殊胜之法,谆谆嘱托在汉地弘扬格鲁派清净圆满之教法,俾汉地众生能离苦得乐,获大利益。


  1927年,诞生于浙江杭州市;
  1930年,因父执教于上海复旦大学,遂随父定居上海;
  1941年,初阅佛书,即茹素,槟弃电影娱乐事等;
  1944年——1946年,上海大同大学学习;
  1946年——1952年,法相学社学习;
  1952年——1954年,上海源丰织造厂会计;
  1953年春,能海上师至沪讲经,深受感悟,潜心学密;
  1954年春,上五台山;同年秋天,于清凉桥吉祥律院;由清定上师剃度,从海公上师学法,依上定下慧和尚受具;
  1982年,上海社科院宗教研究所特约研究员;
  1983年春,厦门南普陀佛学院讲师;
  1985年,任福建省佛学院教务长;
  1987年,在四川宝光寺,兴办已停辍40多年的宝光佛学院,招收青年僧伽,培养僧材;
  1990年,任浙江温州妙果寺首座;
  1992年,应三门县政府之邀,赴三门高梘多宝讲寺任住持;
  1993年,任三门县政协常委;
  1994年,任三门县佛教协会会长;
  1995年元月,任台州市佛协副会长;
  1995年春,定公上师在多宝讲寺对四众弟子宣布,智敏法师可以灌顶;
  1995年秋,南无寺大吉佛爷为法师举行仪式,正式传授金刚阿阁黎位,并将康公赐予之黄帽,当众戴在法师头上;
  1998年,任浙江省佛协常务理事。
  上师历年来,著力于弘法利生事业,依循道次第及清净传承,弘演经论,孜孜不倦,至今所讲授经论有:
  戒学方面:《律海十门》、《沙弥十戒威仪录要》、《沙弥学戒仪轨颂》、《比丘日诵》、《教诫新学比丘行护律仪》、《辨识阿含》(比丘戒)、《菩提宗道菩萨戒论》。
  定学方面:《定道资粮》、《舍利弗阿毗昙禅定品学记》。
  慧学方面:《印度佛教史》、《俱舍颂疏》、《大乘五蕴论》、《百法明门论》、《唯识二十论述记》、《摄大乘论世亲释》、《菩提道次第显密修行科颂讲记》、《三主要道》、《菩提道次第广论》等。

发表于 2012-9-9 16:48 | 显示全部楼层
本帖最后由 常回家看看 于 2012-9-9 16:56 编辑
愿诸众生吉祥 发表于 2012-9-7 12:12
我这位师兄是教师,他信佛多年,他儿子也很聪明的


二世卡盧的展望:我的寺院:一個新的展望和方法(My monasteries: A new vision and approach)

2011年9月3日

原文
http://www.paldenshangpa.net/2011/09/a-vision-for-the-future/

_______________________________________


我親愛的朋友們,我想跟你們大家分享我對我的寺院們有的展望。

從外在看起來一切都非常漂亮,但看看雜誌光澤封面的背後,現實是完全不同的,我真的覺得有很多需要改變:

幼小的孩子們因為他們家庭經濟困難大部分被帶到寺院成為僧侶,這不是孩子們的選擇。

然後,他們接受宗教教育但並非正規的教育。這意味著當孩子們長大了,如果他們決定離開寺院,他們沒有辦法過上美好的生活。我有親密的朋友當他們到了19或20歲的時候離開寺院,而現在他們正在餐廳洗碗或駕駛計程車。由於他們沒有為生活在這個世界受訓或教育,他們會有一段非常困難的時間去擁有一個完整而幸福的生活,這使我心碎。

此外,我看到年輕的僧侶學習佛法而沒有任何直接的生活體驗、也沒有生活中的佛法體驗。舉例來說,我學習到,如同許多年輕僧人學習到,輪迴位於寺院的牆外,那些在感情關係中的人、那些結婚的人、那些工作而完全忙於生活中的人是在輪迴裡,而我們之中那些在寺院裡的人不在輪迴裡,我們被教育成帶著這種驕傲、這種偏見。這些僧侶之中的一些人接著進入閉關而以喇嘛的身分出來,他們被邀請到西方的佛教中心去生活和教學。當他們到達時,他們發現「輪迴是美好的」。然後,他們要經歷一切:生活必須奉獻,太常涉及佛法生意,對無辜的人傷害和佔便宜。他們往往用佛法來掩蓋和解釋他們個人的行為。

另一個人可能在寺院外成長、接受正規教育、體驗生活的樂趣和困難,然後全然理解到輪迴是我們自己心的狀態和我們自己的執著,決定進入寺院並跟隨一條心靈道路。這對我來說是一個更好的方法。

所以我的想法是為家庭有經濟困難的孩子們創建一所學校,孩子們將接受到正規和宗教雙方面的培訓。然後,當孩子到了19或20歲,他們可以自由決定是否要離開而有個人生活,能夠用好的方法處理工作和家庭,在他們的生活中帶著全然欣賞(感謝)佛法;如果他們想要參加學校和教育系統,他們將受到歡迎;如果他們想進入寺院而跟隨一條心靈道路,他們將隨著自己的決定非常全然和徹底地去實行。

對我來說佛法的重點是給我們自由和發展前途(可能性),目前的系統不是這樣做,我希望這種新的方法在我的寺廟和佛法社區都會如此實行。

這是我的展望,而我決心要讓它實現。

       
 楼主| 发表于 2012-9-9 16:48 | 显示全部楼层
多宝讲寺不收年纪这么小的,因为政府不允许
 楼主| 发表于 2012-9-9 16:49 | 显示全部楼层
以前多宝讲寺有小和尚,后来政府让他们去读书,听说一些去了南无寺
 楼主| 发表于 2012-9-9 16:52 | 显示全部楼层
政府管的很严的
发表于 2012-9-9 18:22 | 显示全部楼层
愿诸众生吉祥 发表于 2012-9-9 16:52
政府管的很严的

去藏地寺院,一般没人管。小喇嘛多得很。
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